when it's time, it's time

I joined a gym programme recently that allows me to have access to an eCoach - which basically means a guy phones me once a week to crap on me for not going to gym. He also works out a gym programme for me based on the info i enter into the system at the gym, and it works quite well so far.

Here's the interesting part - in our conversations over the last three or four weeks, he has picked up that there is a problem with my motivation, and he says that it seems like I am very stressed at work. (No prizes yet) He also says (and this is where it gets interesting,) that it seems like I am not very happy at work.

Now, I have not been indiscrete at all about work to him. To others, yes absolutely, but not to him. What I have said is that I have not had time to go to gym because I have not had the time or the inclination, and that even though I am stressed at work (which is perhaps all hte more reason to go to gym) I have not been. I have not been working long hours really, but have not made the time to go, but will do so.

That is about the sum of it.

He is either psychic or, just very intuitive, but this morning we had a long discussion around needing to be happy where you are, and he said that he felt I was not happy at work and that I needed to make a choice to speak up and make a change, or look elsewhere. He was very positive, and gave me a good pep talk about how to not be negative when talking to my boss or it may cause him to be defensive, but to rather tell him exactly how I feel and what I need, mentioning that if my boss was good he would understand and want a mutually beneficial relationtionship where we could both do well etc.

I am blown away. I did not realise how transparent i was being.

I guess I REALLY don't have a poker face - even on the phone.

Oh well, thanks Nceba, you have helped me realise that it really is time to decide for action NOW.

Even though I am depressed (and I can hear you sighing, but you can sigh all you want. I am where I am, and I need to walk my own path, and if depression is a lable I have - then so be it), I need to get up out of hte mire and move on.

Here's to next step. I just need help getting up...